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Unlabeled – a poem by Cristina Dominguez

Lesbian and gay man,
sold in bulk now
but still costly,
costing me a lot of
my personality
and sexuality

Even when
I got the clerk
to help me,
to climb that
step stool
with that long arm tool
and get the
high end
top of the
hierarchy blend–
when it comes down,
comes over me,
it smothers me
and tries to hide
the queer that’s underneath

The tight stereotype
I’ve been
type-casted with,
the kind where,
here and there,
I stick out,
I tear at the seams
where you can see
the queer that’s underneath

At the register
they asked me to register,
to review the
exchange policy
and exchange
my fluidity
for the rigidity of,
for the stiffness
of distinction.
The subtraction and
extraction
of the part that
threatens them.
The extinction of
the queer that’s underneath

They were ready to
ring me up
ring me out
get me “over here Miss”
But I couldn’t
fashion myself
to the help
they dealt me.
So I could find
everything
“Okay”

I hesitated and
contemplated.
I felt the
clothes in my hand
close in.
I drop the fabricated
fabric I tried on and,
head to the
opening and
narrow hall
simultaneously.
I embrace my ambiguity,
my embodied feeling–
reeling in the moment
in the frock that
they mock.
Exposing,
Posing,
showing-on
the queer that’s underneath

Born Again in Me – a poem by Cristina Dominguez

In the place where I once drowned
naked and alone and true I found myself.
The pain that showered me,
a rain that empowered me,
cleansed me of the need to lie, to comply with normalcy,
with laws and facts not true to me–
a life so limiting and narrow light could not
impeach their darkness and find my eyes
in that life I died.

Coming out of the spout life bathes me
fresh, new and free like a baby
cut away from the life that failed to sustain me
I can breathe.
Truth blinding but guiding me,
strengthened from discovery I can finally be
reborn, awakened, adored by me
both mother and the other just born.
Noise surrounds me but not a sound of doubt
can abound the power and purity of the self-awareness
that I’ve found.

Uncovered, exposed, liberated,
what had emanated all along all alone in the
darkness of their ignorance
the individuality of myself and sexuality.

This game of shame and blame
of defeating and beating back and
distancing the different,
that began with race
and now is placed on us
is what goes against grace.

My individuality, my humanity
seeing and being my being
is both the source and the course
of the divinity within me.

Newly released book, Souls of my Young Sisters, celebrates women’s personal journeys and empowerment

By Allyn Gaestel

Souls of My Young Sisters is an inspiring book written by young women, for young women. The stories the authors share are glaringly honest and brutally real. Women speak of their struggles ranging from domestic violence to heartbreak, body image and career trials. But these women are all survivors, and they share the inspiration that pulled them through dark times with other young women.

Candace Sandy, one of the authors of the book explained: “For young African American women, there are staggering statistics about single motherhood, about poverty, about HIV. As we get older, about heart disease and strokes. There is also this amazing power of when these women get older they become the center of their families, they are cleaning up messes of their family, and taking in other children, they are the influencers, they may not have anything but they are going to give anything that they can to the children in their lives…so what we want to try to do, through the voices of the young women is to say look, first let’s know who we are and then let’s take control of how we’re being positioned and what our stories are.

The book is written for women in the twentysomething range, which perhaps explains why it spoke to me so deeply (I being a twentysomething woman), but Sandy hopes the stories will transcend the pages, and women will speak to younger sisters about it. She said: “the thirteen year olds are acting pretty much like eighteen year olds and unfortunately in some communities you may have twentysomethings with a 13 year old. So we’re trying to have honest dialogue with these women and hopefully they will start having dialogue with the younger people in their lives to be able to dispel the myths.”

The stories are framed as first-person accounts of struggles women have overcome with an emphasis on what pulled them through and how they used these challenges to become stronger individuals.

Starr Murrell’s story speaks on her heartbreak when she found out the man she had been centering her life around was simultaneously engaged to someone else. She had pulled away from her career as a dancer and model to focus on building a home with him, only to find herself with nothing when the truth came out.

She had never shared her story until Sandy invited her to a focus group during the early stages of the book’s development. From speaking with the women in the room, she found her voice and was inspired to incorporate an honest and open portrayal of her life into her work in fashion, media and acting. “This whole process is very cathartic, it’s been therapy…writing all these feelings down and reading them back to myself, you kind of see the growth and you see where you were and where you are now. It’s great. I see a stronger woman, I see someone who is more confident and independent, and also someone who is more loving and able to not hold on to grudges or ill will.”

Aleia Moore survived a horrific car crash as a child, and was not expected to live, but with therapy and perseverance she was able to rebuild and go on to academic and professional success. She is already a published author, and her collection of poems “Pieces of Me” has been available since October. Speaking to me at a posh press event for the book at Covet lounge she said: “As we can see, with therapy and prayer and perseverance everything turned out well, and the gist of my story is that if you’re dedicated and you work hard and you continue to press on, that you can overcome anything that’s put in front of you”

The women framed their stories as gifts and messages to other people. Everyone spoke of the hope of fostering sisterhood and letting people know they are not alone in their struggles. Kimberly Cooper, another contributor wrote of her process of finding her own support through faith to get through the death of both of her parents by the time she was 22, and her first big heartbreak at 32. She emphasized the need to foster community among women: “When sisters get together there is a healing power that comes through that, so I absolutely feel that this can speak for women as well, I mean these are our stories, I’m a woman.”

Cooper called herself a “vessel” and tries to be as transparent as possible with her struggles so that others can learn from her honest portrayal of her journey. “We carry the burden of a lot and we need to be encouraged too, we need to know that it’s ok, we need to know that tomorrow’s going to be a better day, we need to know that we’re not alone.”

While the book is written by and for young women, the messages are meant to transcend any barriers. Sandy said: “We want to just kind of work on us, and the word ‘us’ isn’t limited to African-American women, we embrace all women, because we’re going through a lot.” Murrell reflected, “I think any one, young women, young men, the older demographic, I think anybody that picks up this book “souls of my young sisters” will be touched or moved by it in some sort of way.”

The authors have high hopes for the book, which is now available in stores and online. They aim to make the New York Times bestseller list. There may also be a second edition, and hopefully a book geared toward even younger women.

Souls of My Young Sisters is a follow-up to Souls of My Sisters, which was released to critical acclaim in 2000. Starr Murrell is also hosting a blog talk radio showed inspired by the book, which will air Thursdays at 11pm at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/soulsofmyyoungsisters.

Community Forum in Response to Seward Park Library Sexual Assault

COMMUNITY FORUM THIS SUNDAY IN RESPONSE TO SEWARD PARK LIBRARY INCIDENT

Sunday, June 6, 2010
1:00pm to 2:30pm
Mazer Theater of The Educational Alliance
197 East Broadway

(This forum takes place exactly one month
from the day a 9-year old girl was sexually-assaulted inside the library.)

What? This is a public forum for families, leaders, and elected officials to discuss and raise awareness on preventing sexual assault of children.

Why is this important? Come and share your views. Learn how communities prevent and address these kinds of crimes in our community.

Special thanks to Seward Park CO-OP, 7th Precinct Community Council, and The Lo Down NY and these supporting organizations/companies (in formation):

Beth Israel Rape Crisis and Domestic Violence Intervention Program
Chinese Consolidated Benevolent Association of New York
Chinatown Ice Cream Factory
Chinatown Sports Club
Chinese Chamber of Commerce of New York
DOVE Program at the New York Presbyterian Hospital
The Educational Alliance
HealthFirst
Henry Street Settlement
Kaimen Company
Lin Sing Association
MaxDelivery.com
Museum of Chinese in America
New York Asian Women’s Center
The New York Center for Children
New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault
New York State Coalition Against Sexual Assault
NY Strangers Sports Association
Paradigm Shift: NYC’s Feminist Community
Parent Association of PS 184M Shuang Wen
Primitive Christian Church
Project ENVISION, Lower East Side Coalition
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network)
Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Program at The Mount Sinai Medical Center
United Fujianese of American Association
United Jewish Council of East Side
Vision Urbana, Inc.

To volunteer or add your organization to this list, call (727) 851-6289.

Visit The Lo Down NY’s facebook events page to see
up to date information on speakers.
http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=126303760732923&index=1

THE HERETICS – screening at 92Y Tribeca, June 3

It was only a few decades ago that renowned art critic Lucy Lippard, was told “you’re too cute to be an artist!” THE HERETICS, the new film by world-renowned video artist Joan Braderman (JOAN DOES DYNASTY), focuses on a group of feminists, including Lippard and Braderman, who took matters into their own hands: they formed an art collective and put out a magazine, “Heresies,” that was as much about politics as it was about art.

Filmed across the globe, THE HERETICS features interviews and artwork of the artists and critics like Lucy Lippard, Su Friedrich and Ida Applebroog, who grew Heresies into a feminist forum for revolution. Such luminaries as Alice Walker, Adrienne Rich, and Barbara Kruger got their starts in the magazine that spawned ground-breaking photography, poetry, art and ideas.THE HERETICS will screen on June 3 at 92Y Tribeca and Joan will be in attendance for a Q&A. View a trailer here!


THE HERETICS Screening and Q&A
June 3 | 7:30 pm | $12.00
92Y Tribeca | 200 Hudson St., NYC (Map)| Buy tickets

Call for Submissions- LGBTQ Pride Month

It’s time again to wave those rainbow flags in celebration of humanity’s diverse array of gender and sexual orientation! In honor of LGBTQ Pride Month, Paradigm Shift is seeking blog, graphic art, and video submissions related to LGBTQ issues and experiences.  Please let us know how you would like to be credited (by name or anonymous)- deadline, Sunday, June 27th.

Email submissions to: blog@paradigmshiftnyc.com

The modern Pride movement took shape out of the Stonewall riots in 1969, a violent clash where gay people fought back against New York City police and their unconstitutional bar raids. The incident was well publicized and cultivated a sense of community among gay people. The concept of Pride resulted in opposition to shame, which was and remains a social mechanism for oppressing LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, queer) people. The Pride movement has furthered the political struggle for rights by making the LGBTQ community and its issues known.

LGBTQ Pride is a feminist concern because stopping sexist oppression means stopping the systems that create other forms of oppression as well. It would not make sense to focus solely on gender without recognizing the numerous other ways a person would be affected by class, race, sexual orientation, and other forms of diversity. We invite you to voice your ideas and experiences pertaining to Pride in order to increase visibility and awareness of LGBTQ issues as feminist issues.

Some ideas for submissions:

  • Discuss generational shifts within and outside of the LGBTQ community
  • Describe a personal encounter with discrimination and how you dealt with it
  • Reflect on recent LGBTQ-related incidents in the news
  • Create an expression of Pride
  • Recall a fond experience at a Pride celebration
  • Give an example of how LGBTQ issues and feminist issues intersect

Click here for a list of Pride events happening in major cities!

Remember Our Veterans Barbeque – May 29th!

Please join SWAN for a fun & festive

BBQ in appreciation of Servicemembers

and Veterans of the Armed Forces

May 29, 2010

1-5pm

Carver Community Garden

E124th St, btw 2nd & 3rd Ave

(4,5,6 trains to 125th St)

*Food & drinks will be provided.  Please feel free to bring a side dish or anything special you’d like cooked.

*RSVP to 212-683-0015, ext 324 or Kalima@servicewomen.org

THE WOODHULL INSTITUTE FOR ETHICAL LEADERSHIP presents – Women’s Ethical Leadership Retreat

The Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership
is offering a highly selective
Women’s Ethical Leadership Retreat!
June 18-20th, 2010
Ancramdale, NY
Cost: $595 (Covers tuition, materials, room and board)
Very flexible payment plans, group discounts, and scholarships available!
Mention Paradigm Shift and get $100 Discount!

Learn the SKILLS & get the CONNECTIONS you NEED to SUCCEED

With Woodhull You Can:
*Build self-awareness*
*Built networks with women leaders among many professions*
*Increase skill levels in negotiation, financial literacy, and public speaking*
*Increase your tolerance for risk taking*
*Deepen your understanding of ethics and leadership*
**EMPLOYERS!**
Show your appreciation and dedication to the professional and personal development of your employees! We accept 1-3 nominations from organizations. Our practical skill set workshops will strengthen the performance of your women leaders! Woodhull’s program is especially effective for non profits & educational institutions.
Space is filling up fast. Apply TODAY!

Click here for more information
Contact Rebecca at 646-435-0837 or at RMarcus@woodhull.org
www.woodhull.org

MOONFIRE EMPOWERMENT & SPIRITUALITY NETWORK presents – Love in a Time of Broken Heart: Healing From Within™

Facilitated by international Jungian psychotherapist and author, Benig Mauger

HALF-DAY WORKSHOP
Gay Center, NYC
Saturday, May 29, 2010
11 am–4 pm (Opening circle begins 11 am promptly)

ALL WELCOME: Please register in advance by calling Amethyst at 212-222-2467 or emailing amethystsylviachild@gmail.com
$30.00 with advance registration (you may pay on the day of the workshop); $40.00 at the door without advance registration (Cash ONLY)

“An understanding of the transcendent and mystical that is deeply grounded in the psychological is necessary if we are not to get bogged down in the narcissism of ‘woundology,’ or swept away by an ungrounded mysticism that promises healing without struggle.” *

We suffer from a collective broken heart at this time in history. Not only are our hearts broken personally, they’re also broken en mass, making for the unprecedented upheaval we are experiencing. Despite being told that wholeness and love lie within us, in our “quick fix” society, we often look for answers outside of ourselves and remain trapped in our wounds thus hampering our spiritual growth. Using a unique blend of psychology and spirituality, Jungian psychotherapist and author Benig Mauger, drawing from her latest book, will present this experiential workshop to guide you on your inner journey to healing. Using meditation, art, myth, poetry, movement and dream work, we’ll consider how heartbreak can be an initiation that leads to love and compassion. Come discover what your own path to inner healing, wellness, and spiritual purpose can awaken in you.

* From Love in a Time of Broken Heart: Healing From Within, by Benig Mauger

A book signing will follow the event

What to bring: something to write on and art materials such as crayons or paint, if desired. Very important: Please bring a personal item with you that you feel represents you or how you see yourself at this time…it can be a flower, piece of clothing, a crystal, whatever.
Love in a Time of Broken Heart: Healing From Within by Benig Mauger will be used as a resource during the workshop. Copies will be available for purchase that day for $27 (cash please).

Benig Mauger will be available for a limited number of one-on-one sessions on Sunday, May 30, 2010 by appointment. If you would like an appointment please contact Benig directly: benig@me.com.

Benig Mauger is an Ireland-based Jungian psychotherapist, writer, poet and public speaker. A pioneer in pre- and peri-natal psychology and founder of the Holistic Birth Center in London, she is the author of Songs from the Womb: Healing the Wounded Mother, Reclaiming Father: The Search for Wholeness in Men, Women and Children and, most recently, Love in a Time of Broken Heart: Healing From Within. Benig travels internationally to teach, lecture and run workshops. Well known in Ireland and Europe, she is now expanding her audience to the United States. Benig Mauger is warm, humorous, sincere and heartfelt in her caring for people and her subject: Healing From Within. Learn more about her at http://www.soul-connections.com.

Workshop Location and Directions:
The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual &
Transgender Community Center
208 West 13th Street
New York, NY 10011
Website: www.gaycenter.org
Phone: 212-620-7310
The Center is between 7th and 8th Aves
Subway & PATH Directions
1, 2, or 3 to 14th Street and 7th Avenue
A, C, E, or L to 14th Street and 8th Avenue
F or V to 14th Street and 6th Avenue
PATH to 14th Street and 6th Avenue

Testimonials about Benig Mauger:

“Benig’s workshops and talks are powerful and profound because of her soulful and intimate way of working with people. A strong teacher and speaker as well as therapist and writer, Benig is gifted with the ability to provide information while coming directly from the heart, and touches participants through compassionate engagement, moving them into their own hearts.” Editor

“Benig’s workshop at Rowe Conference Center was the best I have attended in a long time, a combination of deep inner work and physical play which included singing, dancing, writing and drawing. She held us as we told our stories, moved through our grief, relived our past through our presence with each other. Benig has the ability to adapt to the participants’ needs, and the strength to guide the group to a compassionate whole. Her books are simple enough for the layman and yet complex enough to hold the attention of the clinical worker. Wonderful!” Singer and songwriter

“With the use of archetypes, fairy tales and dream enactment, Benig encouraged us to explore how our earliest experiences shape our patterns of relating. I found Benig to be a very human and compassionate woman who shared some of her own journey with us thus enabling us to do the same. A truly healing and transformative experience!” Social Care Worker

“Benig’s workshop was for me in ONE word an AWAKENING.” Psychotherapist

“Benig just knows when to go forward, when to withdraw … What more can be said … She embraces us at all times.” Holistic Massage Therapist


Quotes from Benig Mauger:

“It is always important to express the feelings involved in loss.”

“Nowadays we need to build soul stamina; we need to be able to endure hardship, and grow from it. It is no longer enough to simply be aware of soul and to be prepared to heal our wounds. We need to develop the capacity to endure.”

“Separation and aloneness are very important when we are healing our hearts.”

“The catch phrase “love yourself” is so clichéd as to be often dismissed, yet is nonetheless an important reality and essential truth.”

“Facilitating the movement from enduring the suffering of early painful experiences, learning from them and transcending them, I consider one my main tasks as a therapist.”

“Experiencing profound love and heartbreak is also the conduit to learning to love unconditionally and to experience compassion.”

“The marriage of psychology and spirituality is one of my main focuses, because the time has come when our evolution demands it.”

“We are largely unconscious of what story we might be living, but if we do not work at becoming conscious, we identify with the drama, so that we live, act and behave as the characters we identify with.”

“We always seek what we lack, and we always seek balance.”

“People that feel loved glow, and are generally able to give and receive love more easily than those who feel intrinsically unloved.”

“We always have choice, but we generally need to become aware of our unconscious patterns before we can exercise this choice.”

“We have to earn spiritual qualities; they are not handed to us on a plate.”

“At the core of falling in love is a vision of wholeness.”

“It often takes great courage to accept the challenges that the soul sets up for us.”

“When we love we are immediately in the realm of the soul.”

“Letting go of what we think we want and simply being and accepting what is means something new can arrive.”

“Our hearts are the messengers of our spirits, so that listening to the heart connects us with our soul and our life’s purpose.”

“At the time of writing, world events have shattered the heart of man so that, I believe, we are living in a time of broken heart.”

“One thing is clear … healing always comes from within.”

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Legendary: A Chloe Sullivan Appreciation Project… Continues!

Legendary: A Chloe Sullivan project (full commercial) from Legendary on Vimeo.

Legendary Women Inc. is a group generally comprised of young, professional women engaged in a project to pay tribute to the positive representation of young women in the media in order to promote and encourage values young women should strive to achieve. According to the website, Chloe Sullivan is a role model for young women because of such traits as intelligence, tenacity and heroism. Here is an update since their last post on Paradigm Shift along with their ad appreciating Chloe Sullivan:

What a difference three weeks can make!

Since our last feature on Paradigm Shift on the Chloe Sullivan/Allison Mack Tribute Project, Legendary, we have had our premiere on May 14th on KTLA, the CW station in Los Angeles. On Thursday, May 20, 2010, we are becoming a bicoastal “double header.” We will be airing once during the six p.m. news hours in both Los Angeles (KTLA) as well as in New York City (WPIX). This Big Apple affiliate is considered the “flagship” station of the CW network. It is, incidentally, also the day of the CW Upfronts in NYC!

We’ve had an overwhelmingly positive response to our ad from fans, media, and from the CW Network. The ad was featured in Variety, TV Guide Magazine, the Los Angeles Times blog “Hero Complex” and recognized by Jarrett Wieselman of NY Post’s Pop Wrap. We’ve also had a great response from more grass roots sites like Prime Time Geek, Sci Fi Mafia, and Sci Fi Latino. The CW has been supportive as well and we’ve received “tweets” from the publicists and the network’s official twitter. Legendary was also covered by the WPIX Gossip Guy blog (http://bit.ly/702oIx), who applauded us for choosing Chloe Sullivan and Ms. Mack as positive representations of young professional women in the media.

We at Legendary Women, Inc. feel that this is just the beginning. Our next mission is to apply for non-profit status so we will be raising funds for that process. We are also working to build our infrastructure and board so that we can construct our website. We’d plan to have that up and running by mid-July so that we can start profiling female characters and real women in film and television whom we view as role models. Ideally, we’d love to be able to unveil our site—a mix of real women and many beloved genre characters—at Comic Con in San Diego.

The big project that we are gearing up for in late October of 2010 is a charity drive for the East Los Angeles Women’s Center (http://elawc.org/ ) , which helps provide services for Latina women who have suffered from domestic, family, or sexual violence. We are looking forward to the fall and to this being the first of many charitable projects. We are inspired not only by our heroines in the media but also by the friends we’ve made already working at Legendary Women, Inc.

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