She Asked For It: How Rape Myths Hurt Us All – A Discussion on Rape Culture, Sexual Assault, and Activism (location updated)

It’s estimated that one in four women will be raped during their lifetime, yet the way it is treated and understood in society does not match up with reality.  Just recently:

Two cops are acquitted of rape.  The DSK case falls apart.  A man buys a 14-year old girl for sex and gets community service.

These types of events lead to a lot of questions about sexual assault and attitudes towards sexuality in our society.  Some of these include:

How do stereotypes about rape impact a survivor’s ability to get justice?  How do they impact our understanding of sexual assault and what can be done about it?

If you’re interested in joining this important conversation, you should attend “She Asked for It: How Rape Myths Hurt Us All” at 6:30 pm on September 14th.  Special guests include:

  • Helen Benedictnovelist and journalist, she has covered the issue of rape around the world. Sheauthored Sand Queen, a novel of the Iraq War, The Lonely Soldier, about women in the military, andVirgin or Vamp: How the Press Covers Sex Crimes, an analysis of the way sex, race and class bias affect rape coverage;
  • Karen Carroll, Associate Director of the Bronx Sexual Assault Response Team, is a forensic specialist and survivor who trains police departments, DA’s offices and social service professionals, and testified in the NYPD rape trial of Moreno and Mata;
  • Jane ManningPresident of NOW-NYC, is a long-time New York City activist who has worked extensively to improve the criminal justice system’s response to sex crimes. She is a former sex crimes prosecutor;
  • Nancy Schwartzman, filmmaker, activist and survivor, and creator of The Line Campaign—a non-profit organization and movement empowering young leaders to create a world without sexual violence;
  • John Stoltenberg is the creator of Men Can Stop Rape’s “My Duty” campaign, a sexual-assault-prevention media campaign, which was licensed to the U.S. Department of Defense and distributed on military bases around the world. John is also the DC Rape Crisis Center communications consultant.

Location: Pace University – Lecture Hall South, Room 130, One Pace Plaza, New York, NY 10038 (corner of Frankfort & Park Row)
Subways: N, R to City Hall | 4, 5, 6, 6X to Brooklyn Bridge/City Hall | J, Z, A, C, 2, 3 to Fulton S


Beyond Hooking Up: Creating Sexual Empowerment – Interactive Webinar for Berkeley College

Paradigm Shift NYC proudly presents our third webinar commissioned by Berkeley College.  Available to BC students and staff only- login.

Amy Jo Goddard is a sexuality educator, writer, filmmaker, performing artist and activist. She travels to colleges, universities, communities and conferences teaching workshops and speaking about sexuality and maintains a private sex & relationship coaching practice. She currently facilitates her Women’s Sexuality Empowerment Apprenticeship in New York City to assist women in growing their sexual lives. She is co-author of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men and is a contributing author of All About Sex: A Family Resource Guide on Sex and Sexuality. Her article about queer performance artists and activism was published in 2007 in the Social Justice Journal and she has been published in numerous other publications including LOFT and Bust Magazine. Amy Jo was host of CherryBomb.com’s web stream program “Fresh Advice,” developing, researching, writing and performing over 60 episodes on women’s sexuality. A professional trainer of sexuality professionals, medical students, college students and youth for fifteen years, she has taught courses relating to sexuality at the City University of New York and the University of California at Santa Barbara. Amy Jo specializes in women’s health issues and has taught breast and pelvic exams to medical/nursing students for 9 years; and she is director/producer of the forthcoming documentary, At Your Cervix, a film that depicts this work.

Amy Jo came to the field of sexuality via her activism about women’s health, women’s reproductive choices and other gender issues. Her work as a comprehensive sexuality education and LGBT issues advocate led her to provide trainings on sexuality issues to professionals, including how to address sexuality as service providers, and how to effectively serve LBGTQ youth.

Amy Jo earned a Master’s degree in Human Sexuality and Health Education from New York University and a Bachelor’s degree in Literature and Creative Writing from the University of California at Santa Barbara’s College of Creative Studies. Amy Jo’s work is informed by her international study of human sexuality, her knowledge and experience with ritual and shamanistic work, her connection and service to women’s communities, her own personal journey of sexual empowerment, and her deep work as a sexual being.

Berkeley College, established in 1931 as a business school, has grown since that time to a thriving multi-campus institution offering degree programs in a variety of disciplines. With seven locations in New York and New Jersey, Berkeley today offers programs that balance traditional academic study with professional training and hands-on experience.

September Events at the 92nd Street Y!

Wed, Sep 7, 7 pm, $12

TEN YEARS LATER: WOMEN HEROES ON 9/11 AND BEYOND

Join Women’s eNews, FDNY Captain Brenda Berkman and Soledad O’Brien in a tribute to the female heroes who risked and lost their lives on September 11th to save others. The panelists, moderated by O’Brien, discuss the often-overlooked women involved in the recovery, relief and rebuilding efforts at Ground Zero, and women’s overall participation in the work force. Berkman was one of the first women to be accepted into the FDNY and as a captain, worked with the fire department to save lives on 9/11. She retired in 2006 after 25 years as a firefighter and women’s rights advocate, but remains an ardent activist for recognition and visibility of the women in the uniformed services. Women’s eNews is an award-winning, nonprofit news service covering issues of concern to women’s lives. CNN anchor and special correspondent O’Brien has produced a number of documentaries, including Beyond Bravery: The Women of 9/11, which airs September 8 at 11 pm and September 11 at 8 pm.

Thu, Sep 8, 12-1 pm, $18

WENDY AND THE LOST BOYS: THE UNCOMMON LIFE OF WENDY WASSERSTEIN

Wendy Wasserstein (The Heidi Chronicles, The Sisters Rosensweig) was the first female playwright to win a Tony Award. Her inner circle was a who’s who of theater elite, including playwright Christopher Durang and former New York Times theater critic Frank Rich, but she was also a deeply private person who endured her greatest heartbreaks alone. Author Julie Salamon revisits Wasserstein’s greatest works, triumphs and tragedies, and reveals her life in full for the first time. Salamon was a culture writer for The New York Times and the film critic for The Wall Street Journal. She is the author of Wendy and the Lost Boys (Penguin Press HC, August 18, 2011).

“Come one, come all to SlutWalk NYC’s cocktail hour!”

Want to help make NYC’s first Slutwalk a huge success!?

If you answered yes to this question, head to Pop Pub on Monday, August 29th to help raise money for this great event!

If you answered no to this question, well maybe you just like wine, beer, and sex toys!

This fundraiser will be going on from 6 to 9 pm, so make sure to invite all of your friends!  There will be “drinks, lots of lovely ladies, and sex toys to raffle off donated by the Pleasure Chest.”  Really, this is just a win-win situation for all!

There is a ten dollar suggested donation at the door; wine and beer will be for sale inside for 5-6 dollars.  Please contribute if you can… it’s for a good cause!

Cissexism in Pro-Choice vs. Anti-Choice Communities

This piece is a work in progress. I started working on it a few weeks ago and have been making subtle changes ever since.  I originally posted it on my personal blog, but would now like to share this piece here as well.  I am really open to hearing what other people have to say, receiving feedback, and having conversations about the points I make in this piece.

Before getting started, I would also like to note that there is great diversity within both anti-choice and pro-choice communities. The points I make below are based on my own personal experiences with feminists of my generation and those in the anti-choice community that I know personally and those I have interacted with online and at abortion clinics in the past. The main thing I want to make clear is that feminism and gender essentialism are not mutually exclusive. (I have a lot of feelings about this that I plan to write about soon.

In my last post, I reblogged commentary on the manipulative rhetoric used by the anti-choice community in their political discourse, “activism,” and media campaigns. I was really glad to see that iamateenagefeminist expanded on this issue, noting that the anti-choice right focuses on women because they believe that all uterus-bearers are women and vice versa. Of course, I am not surprised by this type of erasure and exclusivity. In fact, it is a huge problem even within pro-choice communities. Understanding cisgendered privilege and using gender-neutral language is incredibly important, yet I find that this is still a huge obstacle in even the most progressive circles. I’ve only recently started learning about these issues myself, but feel that the reasons for this lack of knowledge and the way in which it is addressed differs greatly depending on the individuals in question.

Speaking only from personal experiences, I find that [young] cis-gendered feminists that do not understand this privilege have often not been educated on this aspect of their privilege and how their cissexist language and actions erase the lives and identities of many people in the trans* community. For example, I used to refer to abortion as a “woman’s issue,” as this is how it was framed in the feminist literature I read, the media I consumed, and the conversations I had with friends. It wasn’t until I read an article on Feministing a few months ago that I realized how the language I had been using was cissexist and exclusionary. I immediately started incorporating gender-neutral language when discussing reproductive rights, and have been trying to use only gender-neutral language in ever aspect of my life since then. I have also found that many other feminists, those that I interact with in “real life” and those that I follow on Tumblr, have reacted similarly by acknowledging their mistakes, checking their privilege, and rethinking their perspectives. [I think this points to a really significant problem within our communities and indicates that we need to work harder to ensure that people are educated about this part of privilege & oppression.]

Many feminists do not want people to feel restricted or limited because of their gender; however, there are many others in the feminist community that base their identities and perspectives on gender essentialism. This needs to change immediately: there needs to be space for those who are marginalized in these conversations to share their experiences and perspectives. This is definitely a huge issue that the feminist movement is still working on, but I see a clear difference in the way that pro-choice and anti-choice communities understand gender. I would argue that those that are anti-choice are quick to put individuals in boxes because of the sex they were assigned at birth; the anti-choice agenda is completely founded on the gender binary and gender essentialism. Their erasure of trans men and non-binary individuals is also rooted from a position of privilege, but the way in which they understand their positionality and interact with others is completely different. For one, I feel that the pro-choice movement is open to making changes with regards to their politics and the way they frame their arguments. The anti-choice community, on the other hand, has a clearly defined agenda: abortion is murder, therefore it should be illegal. There is no concern for the lives of the living uterus-bearers involved or the science that acknowledges that abortion is a safe medical procedure.

Also, I think the anti-choice focus on women is rooted in deep-seated misogyny; being anti-choice implies being anti-woman, which also equates to not supporting gender equality. If and when abortion is legal, women are given the right to control their own bodies and reproduction. This exists in opposition to the anti-choice agenda, as that community would ideally have us barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. Meanwhile, women’s “equality” is becoming visible in society: women are running for president, hosting television shows, and even marrying other women in a few states! The patriarchy is falling apart before our eyes (LOL I wish) and male privilege seems to some like it is becoming threatened, so the anti-choice community is getting creative to ensure that we women stay in our place. If women gain rights, men may lose some of their power; for some people, this is basically synonymous with the end of the world. Well, what better way to maintain the patriarchy if not by encouraging misogyny and exerting control over the female-sexed body with lies, manipulation, and “moral” justifications?

On another note, I agree with iamateenagefeminist’s argument that the anti-choice community uses cissexist language because they truly believe in the gender binary and do not understand that being a uterus-bearer is not synonymous with being a woman. The rhetoric they use is supported by all major social structures and institutions, whereas feminist understandings of gender and sexuality are often excluded from any and all things mainstream. Consciousness raising groups unfortuntaely don’t happen in middle school social studies classes and sex education programs hardly even talk about safe sex, let alone gender identity. Understanding one’s privilege takes time, education, and information, along with an open-mind and many other things. Many people may not be aware of their own personal privilege and their role in directly/indirectly oppressing others. Some say ignorance is bliss, but I strongly disagree.

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The cissexism and heteronormativity in anti-choice communities may not be as explicit as the misogyny, but it surely does exist: the anti-choice right is opposed to both reproductive rights and LGBTQ rights.

I can only imagine how the anti-choice agenda would transform in a different social and political context. If heterosexual and/or cisgendered privileged were being “threatened” to the same extent that male privilege is currently being “threatened,” I would picture the anti-choice community incorporating rhetoric that encourages individuals to become (even more) hateful towards the LGBTQ community.

Lastly, I want to say that I think gender-inclusivity would actually be detrimental for the anti-choice community. Not only would it give validity to the arguments of those in the pro-choice community that focus on uterus-bearers (as opposed to only women) but it would mean that they could no longer rely on stereotypes and generalizations about women to support their arguments. Ultimately, the anti-choice agenda depends on misogyny, gender essentialism, and the gender binary if they want to successfully organize in opposition to reproductive rights.

*Of course, there would still be jokes about manicures and frozen coffee, victim-blaming and slut-shaming, but it would all take on a completely new form that may or may not be as effective in creating a similar political climate.

The Rap Guide to Evolution: A Play about Hip-Hop Music, Social Behavior, and Biology

The Rap Guide to Evolution

Written and performed by Baba Brinkman, featuring DJ Mr Simmonds
Directed by Dodd Loomis
Projections by Wendall K. Harrington

“Astonishing and Brilliant!” – The New York Times

“Brilliantly conceived and effervescently performed!” – The Scotsman

A smash hit at the Edinburgh Fringe and around the world, THE RAP GUIDE is at once provocative and scientifically accurate, hilarious and intelligent. Brinkman performs his clever reworkings of popular rap singles as well as his own originals to illustrate Natural Selection, Sexual Selection, Evolutionary Psychology and much more. As Edinburgh’s Scotsman newspaper said, “you’ll never look at a hip-hop music video in the same way again.”

Soho Playhouse – 15 Vandam St. (between Varick St and 6th Avenue)

Performance Schedule:
Tuesday 8pm | Wednesday 8pm | Thursday 8pm | Friday 8pm
Saturday 7pm & 9:30pm | Sunday 5pm & 7:30pm

SPECIAL OFFER!
$ 39 (Reg. $55)

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A Letter From the Women’s Media Center on “Gloria Steinem: In Her Own Words” Documentary

On Monday, August 15th at 9pm EST/PST, HBO Documentary Films will premiere a new documentary Gloria Steinem: In Her Own Words. Rarely does such a feminist occasion come along and theWomen’s Media Center which Gloria co-founded six years ago is using the film as an opportunity to launch an intergenerational discussion about the future of feminism. Gloria uses the film as a rallying cry and asks people to use “their own voices” to plot the next 40 years of feminism.

We hope that you will send this information out to your members and anyone else who might be interested in the film and the campaign.

Here’s what you can do:

Host a House Party with “Gloria”
Gather friends and join the Women’s Media Center on August 15th at 9PM EST as we watch the premiere of the HBO Documentary, “Gloria: In Her Own Words.” As an activist, Gloria has spent over 40 years creating change, now it’s our turn to step up. Gather some friends and learn about the past and future of the women’s movement. Click here to learn more and sign-up to Host a Party. If you can’t watch the show on Aug 15 here are the other dates: Other showings: August 18 (11am); August 20 (2pm); August 23 (1:15pm and 12:30am) and August 28 (5:15pm). It will also air on HBO 2 on August 17 at 8pm. Click here to learn more to sign-up and host a party.

Participate in a Live Chat:
Join Gloria on August 16 at 4pm EST/1 PST to talk about the film and the future of feminism. Log intoHBO Connect for the chat.

Enter our Video Contest:
Submit a 2-minute video telling us what you want the future of feminism to look like and what you’re going to do to make it happen. The winner of the contest will have a private 10-minute phone conversation with Gloria Steinem and the winning video will be featured on the Women’s Media Center Website. Runner up entries will be posted on the Women’s Media Center YouTube channel. Contest will launch on August 15 at 10pm EST following the documentary. More details coming soon — Stay Tuned!

Join Us On Facebook:
In 140 characters, write on the Women’s Media Center’s wall what you want the future of feminism to look like.

Join Us On Twitter:
Join our tweet-up during the documentary premiere on August 15th to talk about the future of feminism and what Gloria Steinem means to the movement. Use #gloria and #WMC to join the conversation.

Click here for more information.

Thank you so much for sharing this information. We look forward to hearing what you think of the film and your thoughts on the future of feminism.

Best,

Julie Burton
President
Women’s Media Center

“The Magdalene” – A Play on Sexuality, Female Power, and the Bible

THE GREATEST STORY NEVER TOLD: A Thrilling New Musical Inspired by the Gospels of Mary and Thomas

Composed by: James Olm

Book by: J.C. Hanley and James Olm

Creative Consultant: Richard Maltby Jr., the Tony Award®-winning director for Ain’t Misbehavin’ and Tony Award® nominee for Miss Saigon

Directed by: Richard Burk

Theatre at Saint Clement’s – 423 West 46th Street (between 9th and 10th Avenue)

Inspired by the Gnostic Gospels of Mary and Thomas, THE MAGDALENE is a stirring love story that includes information intentionally left out when the Bible was compiled in AD 325.  Told through a powerful and passionate score, it is a story of the real human beings involved in what is commonly called the greatest story of all time.  Mary Magdalene, incorrectly dismissed for almost 2000 years as a “penitent prostitute,” may well have been not only a disciple of Jesus, but placed in a position above the other Apostles.  Why was a powerful female figure downgraded as the church was created? Why was sexuality expunged from the most important Biblical figures?  And what was the real personal connection between Mary and Jesus? These themes, well known to anyone who read The DaVinci Code, have inspired a thrilling new musical that, like Jesus Christ Superstar and Godspell, takes a modern look at the world’s greatest story of faith and love.

SPECIAL OFFERS Through SEPTEMBER 4!

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Miss Representation: Film Screening and Discussion on Women in Politics, the Media, and Power

Join fellow feminists and activists on Monday, August 8th for a film screening and discussion of Miss Representation; the event will be held at 6:45 pm at the Hive at 55 (55 Broad Street, 13th Floor). “Written and directed by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, Miss Representation exposes how mainstream media contribute to the under-representation of women in positions of power and influence in America.  The film challenges the media’s limited and often disparaging portrayals of women and girls, which make it difficult for women to achieve leadership positions and for the average woman to feel powerful herself.”

Miss Representation premiered at the 2011 Sundance Film Festival and is now being screened in many different venues across the country, including at corporations and government institutions.  The event organizers promiseto “leave audiences shaken and armed with a new perspective,” so hopefully this will spark positive changes within the previously-mentioned groups.

This film address important issues such as sexism, the glass ceiling, and different conceptions of what it means to be a powerful woman today.    The film also  incorporates statistics and facts alongside interviews with politicians, activists, and more – including Rachel Maddow, Jean Kilbourne, and Condoleezza Rice.  For a sneak peak, watch the trailer here.

This event is free and open to the public, so make sure to invite all of your friends! RSVP today!

“Teeth” by Cristina Dominguez

I watch her
piano fingers
reach up
to touch
ivory keys

Curves of pearls
inside a clam
pried open
chocking
on spiraled sand

She takes
her flesh covered
bone hooks
claws at enamel
digging pink beds, red

I
once
saw
a beautiful animal
go mad

In a looking glass
turning crimson copper
ripping permanence
rinsing and drowning it
in the sink

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